I'm so proud of you Mark/Wife for teaching your children the Way, Truth and Life. We are all learning and growing in our relationship with Yahuah.
Better to say, I'm feeling angry at or about your behaviour or your words, not You. The behaviour is causing your anger - just like Abba Father feels angry at Our disobedience and we get consequences. Parents would do better to discipline out of love not anger because, like our FATHER, We want our children to become better and emotionally healthy. Not put condemnation on their whole being.
I grew up with this. That's how I know how it feels. Lol we can't beat the hell out of our children with words or physical abuse, as my parents did. Which puts fear and anger into a child.
"Children, obey your parents in the Master, for this is right. "Respect your father and mother," which is the first command with promise, in order that it might be well with you, and you might live long on the arets."
"And you, fathers, do not provoke your children, (Push them to anger or wrath) but bring them up in the instruction and admonition of the Master. Servants, obey your masters according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, in sincerity of heart, as to Mashiak; not with eye-service as men-pleasers, but as servants of Mashiak, doing the desire of Yahuah from the inner self, rendering service with pleasure, as to the Master, and not to men, knowing that whatever good anyone..."
HEBREW UNDERSTANDING - Discipline
2596 chanak khaw-nak' a primitive root; properly, to narrow (Compare 2614); figuratively, to initiate or discipline:--dedicate, train up.
4148 muwcar moo-sawr' from 3256; properly, chastisement; figuratively, reproof, warning or instruction; also restraint:--bond, chastening ((-eth)), chastisement, check, correction, discipline, doctrine, instruction, rebuke.
HEBREW UNDERSTANDING - Flog
7850 shotet sho-tate' active participle of an otherwise unused root meaning (properly, to pierce; but only as a denominative from 7752) to flog; a goad:--scourge.
Psalms 25 & 101
"The secret of Yahuah is with those who fear Him, and He will show them His Blood-Covenant. The fear of Yahuah is the beginning of wisdom, and a good understanding have all they that do His commandments - His Praise endures forever!"
"And you have forgotten the appeal which speaks to you as to sons, “My son, do not despise the discipline of Yahuah, nor faint when you are reproved by Him, for whom Yahuah loves, He disciplines, and flogs every son whom He receives.” If you endure discipline, Yahuah is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom a father does not discipline? But if you are without discipline (of which all have become sharers), then you are illegitimate and not sons. Moreover, we indeed had fathers of our flesh disciplining us, and we paid them respect. Shall we not much rather be subject to the Father of Spirits, and live? For they indeed disciplined us for a few days as seemed best to them, but He does it for our profit, so that we might share His apartness. And indeed, no discipline seems pleasant at the time, but grievous, but afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it".
"Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him."
"Do not withold correction from the child: for if you beat him with the rod, he won't die, but it will save his life and deliver him from destruction".
"Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him".
"Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart".
"Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it".
15 "The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother".
"A wise son hears his father’s instruction, but a scoffer does not listen to rebuke".
"Blows that wound cleanse away evil; strokes make clean the innermost parts".
"The wounds of a friend are trustworthy, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses. Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy. Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy."